15 bold new years re-commitments for our personal growth in 2019

15 bold new years re-commitments for ur partal growth in 201915 bold new years re-commitments for ur personal growth in 2019Learn from yesterday, live for today, hope for tomorrow. - Albert EinsteinResolutions. New Plans. Truths. Call em what you want.Im calling mine for 2019, New Years Re-Commitments.Heres why putting together your re-commitments matterWe all get lost, immersed and sometimes trapped in what were doing. Whether its good, bad, productive or time wasted, we dont often know it in the moment. This is why perspective is so important. Its vital to our success that we take a step back, take inventory of what were doing, where were going and whether its the right thing for us.Then, its all about re-committing to what matters fruchtwein. The problem is that we simply havent committed to doing them with consistency. We need to re-commit to things we KNOW are right for us, and weve likely already done. We havent made them habit. Thats exactly what this reckoning- this renewal of beginning a new year- a new season- is all about.Re-commit to what will make you, you. Begin anotlageher chapter in productivity and being your best.This takes time, and its not nearly as fun as socializing or dreaming about that big idea. Most people walk away from dreams, not because of a lack of desire, but because theyre simply unwilling to do the work. Whenever you hear this very important phrase, know that the work first involves a foundation of values and then planning.This must come before anything else If you just jump in without direction, you may succeed at first, but sooner or later youll fail. Its not sustainable. Good luck with yours Here are my re-commitments for 2018. These are personal but they have broad application.I think youll find a lot of yourself in here. I hope they give you the courage and confidence to put together your own resolutions in an effort to live the life you truly want1. Be more PRESENTPresence is more than just coach speak. Its true immersio n in the moment with your heart, mind and soul. Its mental, emotional, spiritual and physical awareness in all that you do. Being present and focusing only on what matters in that moment is paramount. It eliminates distractions. It gives the present moment you in your truest, most authentic form.Live in the moment, every moment. You will maximize your happiness and results.2. Faith without (the bad kind of) fearOut of all the re-commitments on this list, this is perhaps my biggest barrier to overcome. Maybe it is for you, too. True belief in yourself without (the bad kind of) fear is one of lifes greatest challenges. There are good kinds of fear. You know, like knowing when to flee a burning building. Seeing your life plan on the wrong track and being concerned that youll end up living someone elses life.There are good kinds of fear.But the fear of success, the fear of accomplishing your biggest goals - thats terrible. This is where maximum faith and belief in yourself come in. Som etimes, you need a few days away to rediscover yourself and to re-prioritize. Hopefully the Christmas break did that for you. If not, take a step back and rejuvenate yourself and build your faith back up.3. Belief in Yourself in all Moments that Leads to Confidence and ConsistencyRelated, similar, but not equal to 2, this is the manifestation of faith into something bigger that leads to tangible, proven results. The more confident we are, the more we know ourselves and can bridge the gap between our thoughts and actions, the more likely we are to do the things we want - and to do them well.Proven results lead to confidence, and re-application leads to consistency. To start, you must be committed. To finish and achieve your goals, you must be consistent.4. No regrets. Acceptance for whats happened.All that matters is whats next. All that matters is what is in front of us. Thats it. Sure, great memories will last us a lifetime. Memories are different.In the world of results, output a nd achievement, all that matters is how we move forward to the next goal, journey, task or competition in front of us. Prioritization and laser-focus for what matters most will lead you and guide you. Dont worry about whats already happened. You can always write a new chapter in your story for all the world to see. Keep Going5. Become the expert - in a few thingsIve written a successful book targeted to an audience that seeks to build their life on a rock-solid foundation of values and goal-planning. Ive been recognized by my peers, gained acceptance in the writing community and had some awesome media appearances. Others are beginning to recognize me as an expert in this space. And Im happy to walk through the door and live this.My advice to you is to think of your greatest talent - your greatest skills - and what you spend your time on. Become an expert in one thing first, then you can start acquiring the skills and knowledge in multiple areas. But start with one thing first. Be come the best. Become an industry leader and sought-after expert. Dedicate that time and keep growing.For 2019, for me, its being the best coach I can be. And becoming a global thought leader on emotional intelligence. What about for you?6. Leave the things behind that could be nice, but dont fit my game planI want to be a New York Times bestselling writer. I want to be a keynote speaker at many different events. I want to coach more executives and leaders. But Im limited by time. Im limited by my obligations to my family and clients. I cannot do it all. And Im OK with that. Im choosing to focus on a few things and get great at those.Theres always time in the future for all of our grand dreams. So, write those down. But dont try to do everything at once. This leads to too much pressure and self-imposed stress. Instead, focus on your priorities and then plan.Take this from Dr. Theo TsaousidesOne of the most important functions of the brain - and the most recent in terms of our evolu tion - is executive function, a bereich of cognitive abilities that evolved to enable us to set and achieve goals. This brain function is what sets us apart from all other living things. Most other creatures react based on instinct we take action based on planning.7. Build lasting connections. Focus on quality and not quantityRock-solid relationships are born from devotion, empathy, care and concern for the other person. Lead with your heart and build relationships out of genuine care for the other person. Its not about the number of followers or connections you have. Its about the powerful, life-changing connections that you have. Spend your time on those relationships.8. Greater personal ownership over decision-makingWe all need others to rely on in life. But nothing is ever stopping you from taking greater personal ownership over your life. Nothing is stopping you from jumping in to make success happen. For me, this is about giving up sitting on the sidelines about the things I want most.Its truly about decision-making. Sharp, focused and committed decision-making. I know what I can do, and what I cant. Hopefully, you will learn this wisdom in 2019. Take greater ownership over the things you can control and influence, and delegate the things that you cannot do. This requires a well-rounded approach of personal ownership9. Initiative is the name of the gameTurn to others for help. Please, by all means. But be willing to take the initiative FIRST on all that you do. Only then can you decide what you need to allocate or give to others. Go all in with supreme confidence and belief in yourself. When you know you cannot do something - or it can be done more efficiently elsewhere - then turn to someone else.We all need people to help elevate and bring us to the next level. But take the initiative first. This could beStarting that book youve always wanted to writeStarting a new businessCreating an appReaching out to the business that youve always wanted to partn er/work with and asking them for an opportunity to meetGo for it and be unafraid10. Playing with house moneyThe concept, of course, comes from the world of gambling - using the money from the casino to fuel and drive future earnings. Remember, Las Vegas wasnt built on winners But it is the winners, that let it ride in thought, speech and action - those who lead with confidence - who define how they wish to live their lives.Playing with house money is a gift, yet also a choice we have to make in how we handle our business. Its one much easier made, from a psychological standpoint, when were not fearful of losing anything, even though we would be losing what we just earned Its a mindset of confidence that soothes anxiety and fear of loss, in addition to our aversion to risk.11. Take the pressure offBe quick but dont hurry. Those are the words of famous UCLA head basketball coach, John Wooden. Heres what it means to me Stop worrying about a sense of urgency. Dont rush. All that does is put more pressure on yourself and cause more worry. When youre worried, anxious, stressed and living in fear, you dont think as clearly. Youre a mess.Being quick means executing off your game plan. You have to have a plan first. It surely helps to have values to rely on, and a routine that backs this up. When you have these things, youre able to operate and achieve flow more clearly and fluidly. The game begins to come to you much more naturally. Because theres no pressure stopping you from being your best.12. More honesty, openness and vulnerabilityThis is a call to those of us who are simply trying to let our true colors shine through. I love this quote from Michael ThompsonThe very thing you fight to hide more times than not is the very thing that connects you to others. The world has enough masks - I highly recommend taking yours off in 2019.13. Dont revisit past mistakesThere is absolutely NOTHING wrong with making mistakes, having setbacks or failing. Whats wrong is wallo wing in those same mistakes and not putting in the work to move on and get over them. Dont revisit what hasnt worked for you. Find a way to build upon your setbacks, using that adversity to lead you on to a new victory.Once youve made a mistake, do your best to not make it again.14. Find time every day for reflectionCould be in the morning. Could be midday. Maybe its the thing you do right before you go to bed, or brush your teeth, or pray. But please, spend a few minutes in reflection. Couple with a meditation practice. It will change your life and give you quietness and stillness of mind.15. Make people feel specialEveryone wants to be treated in a special way. We all want to feel valued. So, start with doing that for yourself. Be kind to yourself. And in turn, you can then be kind and special to others.The people that I admire most are the ones that bring out the best in others. They seem to do it nonchalantly and without effort. But their thoughts, words and actions are intentio nal. Theyre making the world a better place, one person at a time. They act with self-awareness, empathy and curiosity and a genuine desire to help others succeed.Make someone else feel special and youll have a friend and powerful relationship for life.Jump start your new yearJoin my newsletterfor ways to improve your life and confront your biggest fears. Check out my bestselling book,The Value of Youand if youre interested in working with metry me here.This article first appeared on Medium.